Note to self:

Note to self:

Don’t be so hard on yourself; you’re doing the best you can. You should not be your own worst enemy. Love yourself for who you are and stop trying to be what everyone else wants you to be. Stop comparing yourself to others, and doing things because someone else wants you to. Start living for Jesus, not for everyone else.

Let yourself feel beautiful once and a while, it is okay to feel good about yourself, and you can do it without being full of yourself. Start smiling when you look in the mirror, not grimace.

Stop worrying about the small things, or even the big things. Has anything never worked out? God has your back through it all, and His plan is greater than any plan you will ever imagine. Time spent worrying could be time left accomplishing great things. And remember worrying doesn’t add a single hour to your life.

Remember to put your self in the shoes of other people. No matter how overused that it is it still remains true. Pray for others, just pray in general. Give people slack, they are as human as you are. We all have bad days, and on your bad days show love, not anger. Have patience, meet people where they are and not expect what they are not. You don’t like when people expect things out of you that you are not.

Let people in. People want to help you. Don’t be so afraid of the pain people can cause because the joy is so much greater. You’ll get over the pain, but you may never get to experience life to the fullest if you keep pushing people out. You may be good at listening, but you also need to talk about what is going. You can’t hide your emotions forever.

Give everything you have without giving away yourself. You can be selfless without losing who you are in the process. Remember how blessed you are, and that blessing needs to be shared with others. The sharing you learned in kindergarten can be applied today too.

Celebrate the little things, celebrate life. Make more time for the people who love you, and the people you miss. Pick up the phone a little more instead of just texting. Spend time with the people right in front of you, and less with those who don’t care. Do the things you love and cut out the mundane things you keep doing cause you feel you have to. You do not have to do anything. You’ll start to realize you do have more time in your day for things that make you smile.

Always strive to be a better person. Never stop believing in your dreams and aim for the things you don’t think you can reach, but you surely will if you set your mind to it.

And above all look more like love- like Jesus, and less like the world. Love relentlessly. Love your neighbor, and remember that your neighbor isn’t just that person hidden by the fence next door, but the hurting man on the other side of the world. Stop hoping for good in the world, and be more of the good in the world. You can’t change everyone else, but you can create a ripple effect that causes change.

And one more thing, you’re doing great, so don’t ever give up.

 

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When the Present Becomes the Past

With my two serving jobs, I have seen so many tables that sit in silence because they are wrapped up in their phones. I’ve seen parents playing candy crush while their children fight, kids with headphones in playing war games and not saying a word to their parent, and Moms who set their unruly kids up with a movie and ignore them the rest of dinner. Each time I see this I become a little depressed for humanity, for what is to come with our actions. I look at the world as a whole right now and all that is going on,  and I think these two things ( the lack of human contact and recents events) have a close relationship.

When we are so wrapped up in the screens in front of us we fail to understand what others are going through. We interact with people in a cyber world in which emotions cannot be conveyed. Instead of feelings of sympathy, I see anger, fear and blame being put on others. In our obsession with reaching things far from us, our constant looking to the future and what is to come, we have forgotten how to interact with the now. Our present has become the past. What if instead of pointing fingers we supported those who were hurting, we stood as one united force against the pain and the hurt,  instead of blaming people for experiencing the ridicule.

What if we were more intentional with the people directly around us? Asking how they feel, what they’ve experienced, what they want to do in the now. What if we put down our phones, stopped reading about what everyone else is doing and feeling, and start loving those around us, being open to what others have to say, recognizing that every person you pass has a story, a struggle, and fears too. In a way we have begun to dehumanize each other, we treat each other like we could care less. I too am guilty of this; the racial slurs that slip out, the blaming of other religions, the bashing of other genders. Yes, the phrase love one another is a little cliché, but I think more now than ever it should be something that we cling on to. I am certain that there is a lot less evil than good in the world, and for some reason, we always focus on the evil, the pain, and the loss. We single out people who think different, act different and look different than we do, all in our fear of everything else going on.

I truly believe that the first step to creating a better world is trying to understand the different. Finding similarities instead of disparities. Putting our phones down when around other people- whether at the table, on the bus, or waiting in line. We seal ourselves into an electronic box that few dare to break into. Stop worrying about what is to come, what is in the future, what you want to do tomorrow, and look at what is now, who is around you at the moment, and what you can do today.